Sometimes we feel as if we are being swept along by life, and are powerless to do anything to change its course. It seems as if we’re merely along for the ride, and have to make do with whatever Fortune’s wheel dishes out for us. We may have hopes and dreams, but they always seem to be far on the horizon, so hopelessly out of reach that we fail to take even the first step towards their realization.
When we assert ourselves, however, our entire outlook on life may change. No, we cannot control everything in life, and to some degree, we have to roll with the punches. But we can throw a few ourselves as well. When we go on the offensive in life, we’re often surprised at just how much we can do, almost by sheer force of will.
In order to go on the attack, and pursue your dreams actively, you need to develop will power. Strong will power can allow you to impose your control on many things, both around you and within you.
You can remold your character, teaching yourself self-control, and stamping out those bad habits that are holding you back in life. At the same time, you can exert control on the circumstances around you, both situations and other people.
People who have developed strong wills are often irresistible; their charisma and leadership qualities inspire those around them. As a result, their will often becomes reality.
But building great will power begins within. Most often, frustration arises in life not from those external factors we feel we cannot change, but from those inner demons which somehow mock us, and prevent us from being effective in society. Those bad habits, the lack of moderation in certain spheres, such as alcohol, narcotics, romance, or even partying, can drive us up the wall. No matter how much we realize they are interfering with our professional or family lives, we seem powerless to eradicate them. The key, of course, is will power.
Will power is much like any part of your physical body. If you use it consistently, and flex it, it will grow in size and strength, and even surprise you. If you don’t use it, it will atrophy, wither, and all but disappear. When exercising, no one grabs the heaviest weights first, when they’re just starting out, or runs a marathon the same day they buy their first pair of running shoes. With will power, start out small. Set goals, and challenge yourself—first in small things, then in large things. As you continue to flex the muscle of your will power, you’ll be surprised at how easy self-discipline can become.
Over time, as with any habit, exercising your will power will become second nature. You’ll do it without even thinking about it, or planning it before hand. At that point, you’ll be a much more effective leader, decisive, bold, and enduring. You’ll no longer be distracted from your goals by bad habits or patterns of behavior, because you’ll simply stamp them out with the iron force of your will.