No one can live a fulfilling life without a reasonable level of self-confidence and self-esteem. Of course, it’s important to keep an even keel, and not think too highly of one’s own abilities. One doesn’t want to be pompous and over-confident. But, honestly, this is rarely a problem, even for those who seem to be dripping with certainty in themselves.

Typically, the opposite is the case—we tend to be cruel to ourselves, underestimate our abilities and talents, and, as a result, we’re afraid of living. Because life is a series of risks and ventures, and if we lack the self-esteem to even get out of the gate, we can never hope to join the race and surge to the top of the pack.

If you work methodically to instill a sense of self-esteem in yourself, it will bear fruit in every area of your life, from your business exploits to your personal relationships. Here are just a few easy guidelines to keep in mind during your quest:

1. The only thing we have to fear…

Is fear itself. Those doubts we have are purely internal; they’re figments of our imagination, usually based on no objective evidence. So it’s only a matter of willpower as to whether we overcome those doubts and phobias, or allow them to overpower us

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Listen to Brian Tracy as he explains what’s self esteem & how to improve it… (2:56 min)

Here’s a transcript of the video in case you have slow internet connection:

People sometimes ask me, what’s the key to sales success?

And what I found over the years is there is one correlation. And that is self esteem. The more you like your self & respect yourself, the more you can set yourself to be valuable and important person, the more you sell!

You see, because the more you like yourself.. The more you like other people. The more you like other people… the more they like you

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Although you might have had low self esteem for years, it is never too late to gain self-esteem.

Researchers have found that self-esteem often stems from parenting, and could even be related to genetics.

However, environmental influences, on-going experience, and positive reinforcement can go a long way to raising one’s self-esteem.

Since self-esteem is needed to be successful in relationships and at work, it is important to work on gaining self-esteem.

There are several websites that deal with tips on how to gain self-esteem. Here are some of the major components of self-esteem, and how to achieve it…

Self-Acceptance -

One of the first steps in gaining self-esteem is to

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One of the greatest obstacles to success in life and in work is low self-esteem. If we have low self-esteem we do not have confidence in ourselves and our abilities.

Confidence in ourselves is a critical driver for us to move forward in life…

Not only can low self-esteem cause us to lose a job opportunity, but it can have very serious effects – leading some to depression and potentially to suicide attempts, eating disorders, teenage pregnancy, possible delinquency, and to the possibility we will be victimized as we don’t feel worthy of better treatment.

What really is self-esteem, and what are the causes of low self-esteem?

According to the Joseph Rowntree foundation (Source; www.jrf.org.uk) the scientific community has not been in total agreement on the definition of ’self-esteem’.

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There are moments in everyone’s life when despair crowds your mind, blinding you to everything you’ve accomplished, and all the talents you have.

Instead, your only wish is that you could become something other than the completely unique person you are. In an instant, you’d agree to throw away everything you’ve worked for, personally and spiritually, and become “just like the others.”

Keep in mind, of course, that the others are thinking exactly the same thing—we’re all plagued by self-doubt, although many people are very good at hiding it.

We’ve all been at social events and admired some so-called “social lion,” who exudes a level of confidence that we can only envy.

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“I’m not up to that!”

“I don’t have the guts.”

“I don’t know, maybe some other time.”

Do you recognize these quotations from your own life? Do you tend to second-guess your talents or your courage? Do you always hesitate, instead of taking the plunge? Afraid of risks, or afraid of failure?

Welcome to the club!

Everyone experiences similar feelings at some point in their life. For most of us, it’s an everyday ordeal. Unfortunately, this sort of thing becomes a bad habit. It starts to sound like a broken record. Is self-doubt keeping you from stepping out the front door? If a lack of confidence or courage is handcuffing you, it’s time to take serious steps to alleviate this situation.

A good place to start is to determine the possible origins of your self-doubt. Perhaps some traumatic failure in childhood damaged your self-esteem, and caused you to fear failure to such a degree that you came to fear even making an attempt.

Perhaps your esteem was beaten down by certain authority figures in your life, who made frequent comments to the effect that you’d never do anything special in your life. When repeated over a significant period of time, disparaging comments like these can have an effect, even on the subconscious level. We may not be aware of their scars, but they continue to hold us back as we try to advance in life. Quite simply, we refuse to believe in ourselves, just because others didn’t believe in us.

At some point, one has to get past all of these tired old ways of thinking. Certainly, stop adding to the chorus of critical and disparaging voices yourself. Human nature is such that we’re quick to put ourselves down; when someone else criticizes us, we’re surprisingly quick to take their words to heart, repeat them like a mantra, and heap on negativity ourselves. Soon we’re feeling too small and helpless to even lift a finger. Low self-esteem can become a genuine straitjacket in this way.

Begin freeing yourself from this prison of self-doubt by compiling a chart of your best qualities. You’ll realize you have a lot to be proud of. Reflect on your past accomplishments.

What qualities and talents did each of your achievements reveal in you? What else could you do with those talents? Keep in mind that any person only develops further over time—that the talents we may have been born with will continue to grow with use.

Those achievements of yesteryear are actually mere stepping stones on the road to greater things. The chart you compile is therefore hard evidence of your abilities, and that a lot of great things lie ahead of you. If, that is, you can overcome your self-doubt, and force yourself to venture back into the world and uncover new places.

Self-esteem is something almost anyone can use more of.

Even the people who exude confidence on the exterior probably have nagging doubts in their heart of hearts—doubts that they carefully hide from those around them, but which gnaw at their souls. Doubt can be debilitating.

Luckily, anyone can take very practical steps to improve their self-esteem. Confidence in ourselves isn’t something we’re born with overnight (unless we’re just cocky, in which case the confidence is probably ill-justified!).

Anyone with a brain and a critical eye is bound to see what’s wrong in their lives. But it’s always constructive to remind yourself what’s right—and that, in any case, things can improve still more.

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