No one can live a fulfilling life without a reasonable level of self-confidence and self-esteem. Of course, it’s important to keep an even keel, and not think too highly of one’s own abilities. One doesn’t want to be pompous and over-confident. But, honestly, this is rarely a problem, even for those who seem to be dripping with certainty in themselves.
Typically, the opposite is the case—we tend to be cruel to ourselves, underestimate our abilities and talents, and, as a result, we’re afraid of living. Because life is a series of risks and ventures, and if we lack the self-esteem to even get out of the gate, we can never hope to join the race and surge to the top of the pack.
If you work methodically to instill a sense of self-esteem in yourself, it will bear fruit in every area of your life, from your business exploits to your personal relationships. Here are just a few easy guidelines to keep in mind during your quest:
1. The only thing we have to fear…
Is fear itself. Those doubts we have are purely internal; they’re figments of our imagination, usually based on no objective evidence. So it’s only a matter of willpower as to whether we overcome those doubts and phobias, or allow them to overpower us
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Every day brings with it new transitions. Many of them are too subtle to even notice.
But the fact is that we’re adapting constantly, dealing with the unexpected and unknown every minute of every day.
Recognizing that the human mind is naturally engineered to deal with change is a first step in learning how to thrive on change, to feed off of it, and to embrace it as a sort of privilege. Because every change is a chance for advancement, whether spiritually, personally, or financially. After all, success is itself a kind of change—a change for the better.
There’s no reason to let drastic changes, or even small ones, reduce you to a basket case, or handcuff you.
Learn to work within change, instead of fighting against it, and you may discover that you’re truly in your element when changes arise. There’s an element of chance when life enters transition, and no one human being can direct it completely; so relinquish that need for total control. And remember that the things we can’t plan, or have even planned against, may turn out to be nothing short of miracles. Many of the most significant discoveries and advancements, in science and business, are the result of happy accidents.
Most of the fears that change inspires flow from the fact that we’re More on Thriving Among Change Is the Key to Success
There are some fears that are, more or less, justified, or at least understandable. Fear of death, fear of war, fear of illness—these are simply frightening facts of human existence, about which we can do little.
At the same time, these usually aren’t the fears that keep us up at night, or prohibit our day-to-day activity and movement.
Most of our fears are actually phobias; a phobia is a fear that is totally irrational, and, when viewed from the side, can seem utterly ridiculous.
“Phobia” simply means “fear” in Greek, and, when combined with other Greek words, it gives us the names of some common phobias: “acron” (summit) plus “phobia” gives “acrophobia,” the fear of heights. “Agora” (marketplace, city square) plus “phobia” gives, “agoraphobia,” the fear of public spaces and crowds. Triskaidekaphobia, from the Greek word for thirteen, means a fear of the number thirteen!
See how absurd some phobias can become?
If your fears are frustrating you, and interfering with your daily life, it’s time to get serious and overcome your phobia. Below are just a few useful tips on how to conquer your fears: More on Conquer Your Fears and Phobias
A loyal subscriber emailed me a week or two ago asking:
“Any good article on motivation Kaled, …”
thanx.
I was away from my email for a while, so, today I replied to her “late” –how can I forgive myself! 
Hey,
Sorry for the late reply. On motivation, i have no articles yet. But I can
confidently point you to a friend’s blog. I trust him. Here is the link:
http://www.ineedmotivation.com/blog/category/motivation/
Please excuse my late response again.
take care,
- Kaled
Ever seen those quacks who claim to bend spoons with the power of their minds?
Hey, more power to them. You’d probably like more out of life than the ability to sit around ruining silverware.
And anyway, you’re probably a bit suspicious about the whole mind over matter concept.
The fact is, though, that being effective in life really is about projecting our thoughts into the reality around us. That reality may be hostile to our ideas; they’ll meet with resistance from skeptical people and stubborn matter, that refuses to bend easily to our will. But those who are persistent will often succeed in recreating reality, in being true creators.
The key to this is visualization and affirmation techniques.
First, visualize your dream. See it clearly, in three dimensions, as if it were More on Visualize Your Dreams: Succeed From Within!
We are what we eat, as the saying goes. The foods and drinks you consume can have a surprising impact on how we fell, especially on our energy levels. It’s important to realize the effects various kinds of food and drink have on your energy level, and to consistently apply that knowledge in your daily diet. Here are a few tips on how to boost energy:
1. Lay off the alcohol.
Alcohol leads to dehydration, and frays your nerves. Needless to say, you may lose your ability to stay focused. Alcohol fatigues more than it relaxes, especially when your use becomes excessive or habitual.
2. Do without some caffeine and sugar.
Things like coffee, chocolate, and so-called energy bars and energy drinks offer an apparent quick fix for exhaustion, and may give the feeling of a sudden surge of energy. But this peak is quickly replaced by a valley. Don’t rely on these things to keep a high energy level.
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It doesn’t cost any money to dream. So why not go all out? Why not dream big?
The more impossible, the better. The more improbable, the more original, the more outrageous your dream becomes, the better. Envision it as a reality, and, chances are, it will become one.
History, science, and culture are driven be people with the strength of will to project their dreams into the real world.
These dreamers are often derided by the “practical” people around them, whose imaginations were chained to the ground by the “possible.”
But today, as we look around, it’s usually the soaring edifices of these dreaming architects that we see towering on the horizon, the eternal embodiments of what was, once, nothing more than a dream in someone’s head. Now, they stand as brick and mortar, a living monument to those dreamers even long after their deaths.
So, start by dreaming big. Dream extravagantly. Dream ridiculously. Then, roll up your sleeves and get to work. More on Think Big, and Realize Your Goals
